WHAT IS MARRIAGE?
MARRIAGE IS AN INSTUTION ESTABLISHED BY GOD,A UNION OF TWO DIFFERNT INDIVIDUALS OF OPPOSITE GENDER.
MARRIAGE IS FOR PROCREATION, TO CONTINUE THE CREATION HE GOD STARTED OFF IN GENESIS.
THATS WHY HE SAID, MARRIAGE IS HONOURABLE AND THE BED UNDEFIL
THE BIBLE SAID A WOMAN IS A HELP MEET, THAT MEANS SHE HAS TO COMPLIMENT THE MAN IN WHATEVER HE DOSE IN OTHER TO SUCCEED
COMPLIMENTS LEADS TO COMPATIBLE, WHICH GROWS INTO LOVE.
Hebrews 13:4 (KJV)
4 Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
PREREQUISITE OF A LASTING CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE
1: PRAY AND ASK GOD FOR DIRECTION, PRAY FOR THE GIFT OF DISCERNMENT.
DISCERNMENT TO DISCERN THE RIGHT MAN OR WOMAN FOR YOU, WHOM GOD HAVE ORDAINED TO SPEND
THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH YOU.
THEY MIGHT NOT BE YOUR STANDARD AT THE MOMENT, BUT IF HE IS YOURS, YOU WILL ACCEPT HIM IN WHATEVER ESTATE YOU FINE HIM.
GOLD DON’T LOOK NICE AT FIRST, BUT AFTER THE FIRE OF REFINMENT IT WILL GLOW.
DON’T FIX YOUR HEART AT A PARTICULAR MAN OR WOMAN, AND GO TO GOD IN PRAYER.
HE GOD WILL ANSWER YOU ACCORDING TO YOUR HEART DESIRE.
BE HUMBLE, BE SINCERE AND ASK GOD FOR DIRECTION, BECAUSE GOD IS THE ONE THAT ESTABLISHED MARRIAGE, SO MARRIAGE IS SPIRITUAL, AND SHOULD BE APPROACH WITH PRAYERS.
Ezekiel 14:4 (KJV)
4 Therefore speak unto them, and say unto them, Thus saith the Lord GOD; Every man of the house of Israel that setteth up his idols in his heart, and putteth the stumblingblock of his iniquity before his face, and cometh to the prophet; I the LORD will answer him that cometh according to the multitude of his idols;
THE IDOL IN YOUR HEART MEANS, WHAT YOU HAVE MADE UP YOUR MIND TO DO, HOLDING UNTO IT, AND STILL COMES TO GOD FOR DIRECTIONS IN PRAYER.
2: DON’T LOOK OUT FOR LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT IN MARRIAGE, IT MIGHT BE LUST, YES, YOU HEARD ME RIGHT.
ISRAEL WANTED A KING AS OTHER NATION, BUT GOD GAVE THEM A BABY IN A MANGER, BORN IN LITTLE SMALL CITY CALLED BETHLEHEM.
IT WAS NOT THIER CHOICE, BUT THAT WAS THE CHOICE OF GOD FOR THEM, THEY REJECTED THE OFFER, AND THEY PAY DEARLY FOR IT.
1 Samuel 8:4-7 (KJV)
4 Then all the elders of Israel gathered themselves together, and came to Samuel unto Ramah,
5 And said unto him, Behold, thou art old, and thy sons walk not in thy ways: now make us a king to judge us like all the nations.
6 But the thing displeased Samuel, when they said, Give us a king to judge us. And Samuel prayed unto the LORD.
7 And the LORD said unto Samuel, Hearken unto the voice of the people in all that they say unto thee: for they have not rejected thee, but they have rejected me, that I should not reign over them.
IF YOU START WITH LOVE, IS LIKE PUTTING THE CART BEFORE THE HORSE, LOOK FOR SOMEONE WHO WILL COMPLIMENT YOU, LOOK FOR SOMEONE WHO WILL SHARE IN YOUR DREAMS, VISIONS AND ASPIRATIONS.
BY SO, BOTH OF YOU WILL HAVE A COMMON GROUND AND BACKGROUND FOR DISCUSSION, THIS DISCUSSION WILL BREAK BARRIES THAT WILL OPEN UP FOR TRUE LOVE.
Amos 3:3 (KJV)
3 Can two walk together, except they be agreed?
HUMAN LOVE ALWAYS ANCHORS ITS BASE ON SOMETHING, IS ONLY GOD’S LOVE THAT HAS NO BOUND, EVEN WHEN WE ARE YET SINNERS, HE LOVED US AND DIED FOR US.
IF YOU ARE HAPPY IN WHAT YOU DO, WITH THE SUPPORT OF YOUR SPOUSE, YOU WILL LOVE HER, AND THEY WON’T BE ROOM FOR COMPLAIN, SO MANY PROBLEMS WILL RESOLVE ON ITS OWN.
3: STUDY THE HISTORY OF THE PERSON YOU WANT TO SPEND THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH, STUDY HIS FAMILY BACKGROUND, HOW THEY GREW UP, WHO AND WHO AFFECTED HIS LIFE POSITIVELY.
HISTORY HELPS US TO AVERT FUTURE PROBLEMS IN LIFE.
HAVING KNOW ALL ABOUT THOSE WHO AFFECTED HIM OR HER POSTIVELY, BE FRIEND WITH THEM, DISCUSS WITH YOUR SPOUSE ABOUT THEM, GIVE THEM GIFT IF YOU HAVE.
BY SO DOING, YOU ARE WINNING HIM OR HER OVER TO YOU, GRADUALLY, HE OR SHE WILL GIVE YOU ALL HIS HEART WITHOUT RESERVATION.
AT ANY POINT IN TIME, YOU HAVE A PRESSING NEED, BE IT PERSONALLY, OR YOUR OWN FAMILY, HE WILL DEFINITLY DO EVERYTHING HUMANLY POSSIBLE TO PROVIDE THE HELP FOR YOU, BE IT MONEY OR WHATEVER.
ALSO BY KNOWING THOSE ASPECT OF HIS LIFE THAT HE LACKS, TRY FILLING IN THE GAP FOR HIM, BE THAT COMFORTER FOR HIM OR HER.
Genesis 2:18 (KJV)
18 And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
3: PRAYING TOGETHER/FELLOWISH
COUPLES GET ALONG WELL IF THEY WORSHIP IN THE SAME MINISTRY, BOTH HAVE SOMETHING TO SHARE AND LEARN TOGETHER AT THE END OF THE SERVICE.
IF THEY WORSHIP DIFFERENTLY AND DON’T HAVE SAME FAITH, SATAN WILL USE THAT AS MEANS TO BREAK THEM APART.
THEY WILL BE ROOM FOR SUSPECTION, LIKE, HAVEN’T YOU FINISH WITH YOUR SERVICE, WHAT WERE YOU STILL DOING ALL THIS TIME.
GRADUALLY MALICE, ENVY, JEALOUSY WILL COME IN AND BREAK THAT MARRIAGE APART.
4: RESPECT: RESPECT IS A DEEP ADMIRATION FOR SOMEONE, MAYBE DUE TO ACHIEVEMENT OR QUALITIES.
TO MEN, RESPECT IS AS GOOD AS LOVE, YOU RESPECT SOMEONE BECAUSE OF SOMTHING, SO ALSO IS LOVE.
LISTEN MORE, TALK LESS.
5: FOOD, HAVE A PLAN OF BALANCE DIET LAYED OUT FOR HIM, CHERISH HIM, SARAH CALLED ABRANHAM LORD, YOUR HUSBAND IS YOUR LORD.
AFTER YOUR MAKER, THE NEXT PERSONE THAT COMES IN LINE IS YOUR SPOUSE, YOUR HUSBAND, YOUR WIFE.
1 Peter 3:6-7 (KJV)
6 Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.
7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
Ephesians 4:2-4 (KJV)
2 With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love;
3 Endeavouring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.
4 There is one body, and one Spirit, even as ye are called in one hope of your calling;
6: SEX, THE BIBLE SAYS DEFRAUD NOT YOURSELF FROM ONE ANOTHER.
REMEMBER AS THE DAYS GO BY, THE FEELINGS GO DOWN, BUT IF YOU KEEP ALL THESE RULES I MENTION, I PROMISE YOU, TASTE FOR SEX WON’T GO DOWN.
BECAUSE, SO LONG BOTH OF YOU HAS SOMETHING TO SHARE AND DISCUSS TOGETHER, THAT FEELING OF TOGETHERNESS WILL COME UP NATURALLY, THE KISSING AND THE REST.
ALSO TRY TO SAY TO THE MAN, AM AVAILBALE FOR YOU, AND AM WAITING FOR YOU IN THE ROOM, THESE SAYING WILL TRIGGER A SENSATION IN THE MAN.
AS YOU PRACTICE THESE, DAILY, YOUR MARRIAGE WILL BE SWEET, WILL BE RENEWED EVERYDAY.
1 Corinthians 7:5 (KJV)
5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
FINALLY, EVERY MARRIAGE HAS ABOUT SIX FACTORS WHERE PROBLEM CAN ARISE:
1: POWER AND CONTROL
2: CLOSENESS AND CARING
3: RESPECT AND RECOGNITION
4: SEX AND MONEY
5: COMMUNICATIONS AND COMPATMENT.
IN WHATEVER ANGLE THAT PROBLEM MAY ARISE, IF YOU APPLIED THESE PRINCIPLES MENTION ABOVE, YOUR MARRIAGE WILL BE ON THE RIGHT TRACK.
SHALOM
